Isn’t this title awesome? My creative juices are F-L-O-W-I-N-G lol!
If you don’t know what the Enneagram is, it’s a personality typing system. There are 9 personalities that connect to all the rest like they’re threaded together, touching, which is important since a lot of us don’t like how other tests box us into one thing too much.
It can be used to understand basic tendencies like most personality quizzes, or to jump into some really complex aspects of how growing and maturing in those areas impacts how we do life.
I have really been wanting to share a little about my experience exploring the Enneagram personality typing system in case it would help someone else get past the intimidating amount of info, because
1. It’s cool, and
2. When I first took a test online, it sent back so many pages of things that I didn’t understand yet (really specific “lingo”) that I didn’t get much out of it…
But a huge thanks to my older sister who told me to read “The Road Back to You” by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile , which has started me on such a fun trail in learning more about the Enneagram! Link to this book at the bottom.
Recently, I heard a teacher say that there isn’t a quick sales blip to get someone interested in the Enneagram. But I really feel like that lack of an easy-to-assimilate introduction is preventing a ton of people from finding gold in the information about this tool. It definitely kept me from getting it for a long time, because all I saw were words like “subtype, archetype, wing, security, stance…” and none of that made a lick of sense to me!
So here is part of Suzanne Stabile’s description:
“The Enneagram acts as a unique tool for understanding and explaining human behavior, and the underlying motivations that drive behavior and the gifts we all have for the transformation of non-productive encounters with others.
This particular approach to learning about people’s differences in how they see the world is REALLY helping me push myself past non-productive communication and behavior. Or at least, I’m learning. 😉
The first thing I got out of it was that I had been intentionally pushing down my core motivations and some of the things that make me who I am, because I felt like I needed to stop being that way to be “good”.
Initially, it was really upsetting to basically hear that everyone sees those tendencies whether I try to hide them or not. As an example, I learned that it’s normal for me to be overwhelmed by emotion, to the point that it’s over the top for other people. But just because it’s overkill for someone else doesn’t mean I’m defective, or that I can’t learn how to see and use my emotions to create things.
Also, I learned that my core fear is scaring people off in my deep desire to connect. I can mature in these areas, or let them be derailed negatively by stuffing them, resisting them – or most detrimentally – never trying to understand how I fit in with the rest of the world and other people’s perspective to create unity.
If you’re married, it’s CRAZY to read about your spouse’s type, and there is even information out there specifically on how your type relates to their type in a marriage. It’s amazing.
I’m going to keep this short because otherwise I would be contradicting myself. I really do want there to be more introductory type posts and materials about this. I wish I had realized sooner that it wasn’t too complicated to follow!
You can check out The Road Back to You here:
But even if you end up taking an online test, I highly recommend not stopping there since it’s sort of a big dump of information.